Accurate and shame-free women's health and sexuality education. I help women live up to their potential for joy and fulfillment in their marriages.
It often ended in tears π
Reader, it usually began with trying to find 'modest' clothes.I carried a huge pile of clothes into the dressing room and set them down with a groan of relief. Now the work began. What would pass the modesty standards. First, my pants had to be almost up to my bellybutton. You're thinking, yeah, no problem! But girl, these were the days of low rise jeans. Only grandma's wore pants up to their belly button.Next, my pants couldn't be too tight (another feat, as designers apparently thought all girls walked around on tooth picks). Then, absolutely no stretch lines around my breasts were allowed β or that shirt was obviously too tight. Finally, the lift your arms up to the sky and touch your toes moves to check if any midriff was visible. 1 out of every 1,845,799 outfits passed. Meaning, most shopping trips ended in frustration and tears. Why such a rigorous dressing room routine? .... FEARFear that I could be a temptation to men. Fear that I could cause someone to sin. And to top all of that fear off, I was scared I wouldn't be cute enough to get married one day, but I didn't want to be too cute or I might get "taken advantage of." No one can sum up these contradictions as well as America Ferrera's quote from the Barbie movie. "You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much."We can do better for our kids! We can teach them our beliefs and values without shame and fear. We can teach them that they are in control of their actions. We can teach them that modesty is not a dress code for women, but a way we live, think, act, and speak. We can teach them our beliefs and educate them so that they can make decisions based on good information, not out of fear. We can teach them that they are the best gift to give their future spouse. We can teach them that Jesus has the ultimate power to cleanse and heal them. Teaching our kids about modesty and sexuality can happen during simple and small conversations. We can empower our kids by giving them the chance to make good decisions because they want to, not out of fear.In this weeks podcast episode, Dr. Camden Morgante breaks down how to talk with our kids about sex *minus* the shame and false promises. So Reader, tune in and let's empower them! |
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Accurate and shame-free women's health and sexuality education. I help women live up to their potential for joy and fulfillment in their marriages.
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